Barry Wolfson laments that “we’ve become such an all-or-nothing society” and wants people who fall off the New Year’s resolution bandwagon to “calm down, relax. It’s not the end of the world.”

On the other hand, it’s also not justification to “throw up your hands and give up,” he says. “Feel a little guilty and then get back to it.”

Wolfson, owner of Hypnosis Counseling Center, with offices in Flemington and Frenchtown, has spent more than a quarter century helping people keep their resolutions.

The most popular resolutions seek loss — of weight or nicotine addictions. He usually suggests two or three hypnosis sessions for people seeking a weight loss of less than 25 pounds. For more than that, he’s found that at least four sessions over two months is better.

Sometimes resolutions seek relief from bad habits, such as nail biting, other times someone may resolve to improve an aspect of her life.

“Fortunately hypnosis is now more mainstream. More males are coming to me than ever before,” says Wolfson.

Counselor and hypnotherapist Barry Wolfson, MS, explains how hypnosis can help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals this New Year’s by Susan Bloom

While considered unconventional to some, hypnosis is a medically-approved practice that has proven effective in helping patients make positive behavioral changes. Barry Wolfson, MS, is Director of the Hypnosis Counseling Center, which he founded over 25 years ago in Bloomfield and which he has since expanded to offices in Flemington and Frenchtown as well as a planned site in Princeton. A trained hypnotherapist with a Masters Degree in Counseling from Upsala College, Wolfson has brought his methodology to more than 25 adult schools around the state as well as corporate offices, college campuses, and hospitals. Below he explains how the renowned approach of hypnosis – first used in the 1840’s – can help people attain their personal or professional goals or realize their New Year’s resolutions.

NA: Do you find that a lot of people seek out hypnosis in January?
Wolfson: Absolutely. Many of us choose the New Year to make a new start, and we do it by making New Year’s resolutions. The fact is, however, almost none of us keep them. It’s not that we don’t want to make the changes, because we’re usually very sincere. It’s that we try to tough it out alone using sheer willpower, when many of our resolutions involve long term habits that are difficult to change without help. That’s where hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis is a very effective tool which can help people realize their year’s resolution(s). So every New Year’s for the last 26 years, as predictable as the new year itself, my phone starts to ring very frequently.

NA: What is hypnosis?
Wolfson: Hypnosis is an ”alpha” state of mind, which is a dreamlike state similar to yoga and meditation. Hypnosis helps you leverage your strongest personal asset – your mind – to achieve lasting and positive behavioral changes. Once in a relaxed hypnotic state, you’ll open yourself to affirmative, therapeutic suggestions and begin your own journey toward positive change and personal freedom.

NA: What types of conditions or behaviors can hypnosis effectively address?
Wolfson: At the Hypnosis Counseling Center, we’ve successfully addressed patient issues involving weight loss, smoking cessation, self-esteem, stress reduction, fears and phobias, public speaking, anxiety and panic attacks, test-taking, insomnia, sports improvement, migraines, and confidence building, among others.

NA: How would a typical session work?
Wolfson: Hypnosis sessions begin with a soothing breathing exercise. Through gentle suggestions, we then lead patients into a state of complete relaxation and deep meditation. The conscious mind steps back as the subconscious mind becomes open to suggestions for change. In this state of deep relaxation, your mind concentrates on one specific behavioral change, ignoring all outside distractions. I use my voice to put clients into a very relaxed state where I can then plant positive suggestions for change. At the same time, I make my clients customized audio CDs to listen to on a daily basis to help reinforce these positive messages.

NA: Do people have pre-conceived notions about hypnosis that you have to dispel?
Wolfson: Definitely. Contrary to popular belief, when hypnotized, you’re not asleep and you’re not unconscious – you’re able to talk, hear, move, and think. In hypnosis, you’re simply in a deep state of relaxation – similar to what you experience prior to falling asleep – where your mind is more open to positive suggestions for change. You can come out of this relaxed state at any time by simply opening your eyes. Many people also question the legitimacy of hypnosis, but the truth is it’s a scientific and medically approved methodology that’s been backed by the American Medical Association as an accepted and recommended medical procedure since 1958.

NA: What are the key messages you want readers to take away about hypnosis?
Jones: Through hypnosis, people can, for example, stop smoking without anxiety, weight gain, or mood swings, or lose weight and maintain it for life without drugs, fad diets, dangerous herbs, expensive meal plans, or special foods. The hypnotic state is attainable by almost all people — the only tools you need are your own mind and the desire to succeed. Hypnosis is safe, medically approved, and, best of all, it
works.
The Hypnosis Counseling Center has offices in Bloomfield, Flemington, and Frenchtown. For more information, call (908) 996-3311, visit www.hypnosisnj.com, or e-mail Director Barry Wolfson at barry@hypnosisnj.com.

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